Its Really Your Fault For Real For Real..I mean, If You Wanna Be Real, It Is..I’m Just Saying.

April 14, 2009

So, this post is going to be a rant/rave etc…

It seems that whatever happens to a woman regarding relationships, its her fault. No blame could/should ever be placed on the man as his type of behavior is expected. Usually women think with their heads, hearts and emotions. Men tend to think with their penes. (correct plural use of penis) Men can go around with their dicks poked out ready to hump anything that hops on; however, its OK, because he’s a man right? If said man hooked up with a girl, woo’d her, told her what she wanted to hear, and she falls for it, guess who fault it is? “Well, you knew he was a dog before you got with him” or “Or, how could you not know he wasn’t lying”

Some men take advantage of a woman’s vulnerability or sad to say, their desperation. Instead of being responsible and saying “woah, lets take this slow” (taking it slow seems to be rocket science for some men) they use the woman to get what they want and leave. It seems now-a-days men can do what they want to/with woman and not have any repercutions.

“See, the problem with women is”…, “Man, women don’t know how to”….., “Women just need to learn how to be…”

One thing that really pisses me off is that some men say “Women have to learn how to be women and not take the man’s role” First off, don’t tell me how to be a woman, because you will never know what it is to be a woman. Thats like a horse telling a fish how to be a fish. I refuse to listen to any person of the XY chromosome to tell me how to be my natural XX chromosome self!

“You can’t find a man? Oh girl, YOU need to wear more makeup, YOU need to wear more sexy clothes, YOU need to loose weight, YOU need to gain weight ‘in all the right places” Soooooooo, I can’t get a man cause I don’t do all these things, I can’t keep a man cause I would rather wait well into the relationship to have sex, I can’t keep him because I don’t know/can’t read his body language, and he left me because I am just too clingly, too naggy, too sexually reserved, too insecure, too bold in my words, too irrational, too undereducated, too muthafuckin nice, etc etc….Thats a shame..so much blame placed on the woman. “Girrrrrl, if you don’t, there are a 20 ova women that will”

All these books out here on how to figure out a man. I mean really, why the FUCK do I have figure out a man? How about that man tells me whats on his mind instead of me attempting to read signs/body language and what have you? I mean, where are the books teaching men how to communicate their needs and wants, and understand women. If you want out of a relationship, say it; don’t start fights and make accusations. Just say that shit!

Maybe this is just a phase I am going through, but ya’ll I am truly truly tired of women taking the fall for men’s actions. Sure, there are times when women need to say (if the situation permits) “You know what, this is not the man/relationship for me, let me roll” But there are a whole lot of other times when the man can make the decision to take it slow, when the man can NOT have sex. I mean, what would it take to find a man who says “no, I would rather not have sex so early in the relationship, I would rather wait”

I remember back in the stone age, men used to compete for women to the death. They used to see who could pick up the heaviest writing stone or who could kill the biggest boar, or whatever. Now, men be like, “psh, I want her, but I ain’t bout to go all out for her, if she want me, she wants me, if not, there are 10 other breezells in the sea.”

Now..I am not saying that men should compete with each other physically, but hell, at least say “well, let me see how I can get her attention” or “let me show her that I want to be with her” I mean GOT DAMN!!!!

Now I am not saying that ALL men are like this. I do believe there are some men out there who adhere/agree with what I am saying and who are not succinct; just wanting sex or some head.

Rant/rave semi over.

F this shit!

Rant/Rave over.

So, I am sorry for all the cuss words, I usually don’t cuss in my writings..(or do I??, well, I try not too :) )

I’m Back..for the time being..

March 13, 2009

Its been a sho nuff while since I posted…to be honest, posting got old..real quick…..

Ain’t nothing new since the last blog..I am still working at the NIH, I moved into my own apartment…(whole nother story right there shawty).  Life is good for right now..no complaints…

I am listening to one of THE greatest artists in the world..Rahsaan Patterson.  His voice is ridiculous!!  He has a free concert on the fab channel (http://www.fabchannel.com/rahsaan_patterson_concert)  It is fire!! I listen to it at least once a day during work…

 

Anyways, for those that actually keep up with this blog via RRS feed, holla back!

King Obama Reigns……

November 7, 2008

When I heard that it has been projected that Barack Obama will be President-elect, I was elated. Well, elated is too weak of a word..I can’t describe how I felt. I was in bed watching the results stream in online. When I heard the news, I sat back and cried. I could think of nothing but my people who where hung. I saw images of my ancestors hung from trees and then King Obama’s face would flash through. I cried.

However, this blog isn’t about that, its about the pre-president elect attitudes……

So, as you all can see, I received a lot of flack for my blog post that states if black folk wanted to vote for Barack because of his ethnicity, there’s nothing wrong with that….nevertheless, this moment in history is historic for one reason only, and that is because Barack is black.

Let me start off by first saying thatI VOTED FOR BARACK BECAUSE HE IS BLACK. I identify with him, he looks like me, and I personally never felt closer than I do now to a president; someone I will probably never meet. I don’t feel ashamed for my reasonings; however, it baffled me that many people, including black folks, said that you shouldn’t vote for him because of the color of his skin, that it should come secondary.

But…

What has the world been concentrating on? He is the FIRST BLACK PRESIDENT, not that he is the democratic president elect. Radio stations wouldn’t have campaigned as strongly as they did if Barack was white. Constituents wouldn’t have campaigned as passionately as they did if he were white. Brother Powell wouldn’t have had tears in his eyes if he were white and Brother Jesse Jackson wouldn’t have wept if he were white. I think A LOT of people including, white, black, puerto rican, asian, indian, etc voted for him because of Barack’s ethnicity, but don’t want to admit it. They don’t want to argue why they voted nor do they want people to assume that because they are a person of color, they would automatically vote for Barack.

Personally, I didn’t care about that. If you assume because I was black that I was going to vote for Barack, that is an assumption that I am not ashamed to received. Assume that about me, I don’t give a shit.

This is by far the funniest animal video I have EVA seen..

October 19, 2008

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OIYySjIyy_I&feature=related

Twitchers Delight….

October 19, 2008

On thursday of last week, I couldn’t fall asleep cause…you guessed it, TWITCHING!!  In a span of 10 (my internal vaginal area is twitching as I write this) minutes, my fingers twitched, the right side of head (above my ear) twitched, two separate places on my foot, my knee and the back of knee twitched.   However, what really kept me up all night was the twitching on the side of my head…

My upper lip just twitched…

People, don’t think anything is wrong with me, cause it ain’t (my leg just twitched)…I just have this di (my thigh just twitched) sease/syndrome…it isn’t painful, I don’t feel any itchiness, and I don’t have any muscle weakness.  I have been dealing with this since I was (my stomach just twitched) a little girl.  It is VERY annoying..however, it is most annoying (my knee just twitched) from my neck up…(My eyelid just twitched)..(my thigh just twitched again!)…So, I have bought some valerian root to help (my leg, near my ankle just twitched) relax my muscles…I am hoping it will work…hopefully I can enjoy a restful night’s sleep without worrying about twitching…

As you can see, twitching is a part of my life.  While I have (my eyelid just twiched) written this, I hope to give you a glimpse into how much I twitch.  (my lower eyelid just twitched) As I am writing this, I am le (my stomach just twitch) tting you know as soon as I twitch…

And, as I sit back and re-read my post, the side of my foot and my cheek twitched…

WHA (my eyebrow just twitched) T a life I live.

I finally figured it out!!!

September 29, 2008

I finally figured out what all this twitching means.

Well…

Let’s just say I came to the conclusion on what it is.  I have BFS!  Benign Fasciculation Syndrome..There is no cause or cure, it just is…..

Its a disease of the muscle…its where they twitch uncontrollably, several times a day….I diagnosed myself because of the implications.

I have twitched from my rooter to my tooter….every since I was little girl.  In fact, I remember being frustrated to tears cause of the twitching.  It doesn’t hurt or itch, its just annoying as all get out.

I have learned to deal with the twitching on my body, but anywhere on my face is where I REALLY get frustrated.

Let’s see, my toes have twitched, in between my toes, my ankles have twitched, my calves, PLEASE, they twitch all the time, the back of my knees twitch, my thighs twitch, my butt cheeks twitches…(I remember one time I was standing on a crowded bus, I was in some jeans and my butt cheek starting twitching!! I PRAYED nobody saw that!! LOL)  My feminine area twitches (internally), my back twitches, my hips twitch, my stomach twitches, my breast twitches, every crevice of my arm has twitched , my fingers and between my fingers have twitched, my neck twitches (which slightly moves my head, which is SOO irritating), my tongue twitches, (yes, my tongue) my eyes, nose (inside AND out) my lips, my cheeks,my ears (inside and out) my chin twitches, muscles in my head twitch–muscles that are connected to my jaw causing it to move slightly (which is beyond irritating) AAAAAAND, by the time I have written this, two areas of my body have twitched…

So..how ya like that…

NIH HERE I COME!!!!!

September 26, 2008

So, if you scroll down a bit to “I feel a cold comin on..”  I told you all that I interviewed for a job…

Well..

I GOT THE JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Give me the cure for the eye twitch……

September 23, 2008

It is 4:57AM on a tuesday.  I have been up since 2:00AM suffering with an eye twitch.  In fact, the twitch actually woke me up outta my sleep.  My left eye, the upper eyelid has been twitching since 2:00AM.  Mind you, I went to sleep at 12:00AM. I don’t know what to do.

It is continuous and it is EXTREMELY annoying…..

HALP!!!!!!!!!!

Natural Hurr……

September 22, 2008

Whats up Sistahs!!!

This post is mainly for my sistah’s who choose to relax their natural hair! Now, off the bat, don’t get me wrong, permed hair, straight hair, relaxed hair, natural hair, it don’t make a difference to me. Do what you do, if you like it, I love it! However, I think that all black women should try to wear their natural hair texture at least once in their life. Its a shame that many black women today die without even knowing what their real hair felt like.

I have one friend who changes her hair any time she wants. One day she wears it relaxed, the next, she decides to cut it off and wear a short cropped do, the next day, she relaxes it again, but dyes it red, then the next day she is getting braids to help start some locs, then a year down the line, she cuts off the locks, relaxes her hair and gets some braids. She believes in having fun with your hair and so do I!

Nevertheless, I think it is imperative for a black woman to wear her hair natural at least once just see what she really looks like; to play, experiment and have fun with the hair that naturally grows from your scalp.

Now, I ain’t saying its easier than relaxed hair cause for me, it ain’t. But it is a lot of fun and I encourage my sistah’s to put down that relaxer and let that hair grow free and natural!

Public Transportation Etiquette!

September 22, 2008

It is time that we make up some rules for those that travel via public transpo!

I see too many fouls, out of bounds, and “No you didn’ts” while riding public transportation…

I’ll go first (and I will keep adding)

1. If you have to sneeze or cough or expel something from your mouth, COVER THAT JANK! When you ride public transportation you are breathing in recycled air, it is only right (and sanitary, might I add) to cover your stank mouth!

2. DO NOT, let me repeat that mug, DO NOT, cough or sneeze with the same hand that you are using to hold on to the pole of the bus or train. (That is probably how I got my cold now!) I hate when people sneeze in their hand, then use that same hand to hold on to the pole. That doesn’t make sense to me. You might as well sneeze in my face!

Please feel free to add on!


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